Pep talk: It’s not just that you’re pretty and smart- It’s that you’re generous with your wisdom and inner beauty. You use your gifts to benefit the greater good. You share and you inspire others to share.
“And once the storm is over you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, in fact, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm you won’t be the same person who walked in.”—~ Haruki Murakami (via conflictingheart)
“One day, my entire body will be filled by constellations.
Stars spread across my skin to light
the way within me, the part you never will see.
One day, that first constellation,
the one I put there myself when I realized
that I was of the universe the way
supernovas and Cassiopeia are,
when I realized that the Milky Way held me
but that I held my own galaxies
beneath my thin skin.
One day that constellation will be lost
amongst all the other stars that are gathering
within me as I live—each breath taken gathering in
more of the dust that has traveled to fill my lungs
since the dawn of time.
And you may call this vanity, place me on your map,
box me in to where you think I sit
amongst all the other pretty stars you stare at in the night,
but I spend my time traveling across your narrow horizon
just as the stars migrate through the night sky,
until I reach the moment in which
all my exuberance and brightness
which you mean to snuff out
will burst with brilliance,
outwards and outshining a galaxy
of those same stars you ignore me for.
I will outshine the very sun.”—"Supernovae" K. Lundquist
Don’t let someone else push you out of your life. Those people, those naysayers, those who hurt you badly enough that the thought of watching a t.v. show you two used to watch makes you ache… Fuck them. Don’t let people push you out of your life. Remember, the things you enjoy, you enjoy because they have some significance to you. They bring you a feeling of joy or happiness or calm.
Don’t let someone else push you out of your life. You like that song or movie? Listen to it. Watch it. That restaurant, go eat there. Don’t let others push you out of your life.
It is yours. You get to keep it. And if someone chooses to leave your life, if they don’t want to be a part of your life, then take a breath, remind yourself that their leaving speaks of them, not you, and know that being rid of someone who does not value you enough to stay is a good thing.
It isn’t the person who changes and becomes depressing, or frustrating, or tiresome. It’s the reality of that person: seeing them for who they are as opposed to how you wanted them to be. That kind of light doesn’t blind you, it just sears your skin a little, living some strange feeling of rawness and sadness.
“I always tell my dancers: Don’t look like a dancer; be a vessel for human emotions, try to look like a human being. Only when I achieve this do I feel that both the public and I are satisfied.”— Alvin Ailey
I texted my friends today. I was feeling particularly low and needed something, anything to buoy me up. I asked them to describe me, and what followed was enough to remind me to walk away from the bad, look ahead to the good, and have a little faith and hope (at least).
"You’re independent. Beautiful. Intelligent. Strong. Confident. And I love you."
"The strengths of your personality are kindness, that you’re funny and witty, and that you’re intellectually curious, thoughtful and articulate. I hope you’re doing good—cheer up you’re awesome."
"I think you’re an open-minded, fun loving, charismatic, loyal, endearing person. And so much more :-)"
"I think you’re strengths are your intellect, your ambition, and that you aren’t just a smart, driven lady robot… You’re very caring and passionate. Also you’re extremely honest, and I think most people wish they had the balls of Kate to be able to say how they feel when they feel it."
"You are ambitious and intelligent, and have that rare ability to see things logically and practically, but also see the beauty and art in the world when many people usually see either or. You are a fantastic friend and always there for people who need it. You are driven and if you don’t know exactly what you want at any given moment, you would have no problem attaining whatever you decide on. You are beautiful and healthy and easy to relate to, and you aren’t afraid to stick up for yourself."
"Kate, you have so many strengths! You are bright, witty, creative, artistic, beautiful, considerate and so much fun! Please don’t doubt how awesome you are."
"You are compassionate and brave."
"And your second question, the strengths of your personality! This one is so much easier. First you are a really fun person and interesting, you are smart and quirky with a biting sense of humor that is fun to be around. You make great conversation, you are confident and self assured, you have boundless interesting information to share, and those are just the superficial kinds of things. In a deeper sense, you are a good person with admirable goals. You know yourself and what you want to do and why you want it, and you are willing to do the hard work to make what you want of your life. that is a very admirable and rare quality and I hope you know it. Being around such a strong personality is uplifting and inspiring."